12 Online Dating Tips from Real Women Who Met Their Spouses on ‘The Apps’

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Most women have dreamed of finding the love of their life since they were little girls. A man would come in and sweep them off their feet like a Hollywood movie ending, and they would lie happily ever after.

Sadly, this is real life, and we usually don’t get the Hollywood ending we were hoping for.

In real life, many women connect with others via a dating app. According to a Stanford University study, dating apps are the #1 way for couples to meet.

1. Look for someone who makes it convenient for you.

Wait for someone who will go out of their way for you. When a guy plans a date near where you live, he is willing to travel to see you, which means a lot.

He is willing to put in the effort and is most likely in it of something more serious and longterm.

2. Cut them off if they’re not texting you back.

Your time is precious and important, so don’t waste it on a guy who refuses to answer you.

If someone doesn’t message you back promptly, then move on. There is plenty of other fish in the sea or the dating app. If someone is interested in you, they will make sure you know that.

3 Kick your “type” to the curb.

Keep an open mind if you are single. If you are someone who usually only dates blonde-haired, built men and blue eyes, try going on a date with a brown-haired, brown-eyed, skinny guy.

You may be swiping right past your prince charming and not even know it because you are too interested in what someone looks like.

4 Pay for the site if it has the population you want to date.

To show you are serious about finding a partner, the best way to do that is to pay for a membership.

Sites like OkCupid, Tinder, and Bumble all offer paid memberships.

With these memberships come different features that boost your chances of getting matches. The more matches you get, the more likely you will find the one.

5 Put the apps down while you are on a date with someone else.

How would you feel if a guy kept swiping right on other females while out on a date?

Turn off all notifications from other dating sites while out on a date.

Not only is it rude to keep looking at your phone, but you want to give your full attention to the person sitting across the table from you.

If you never give someone a chance, how are you supposed to get to know them?

6 Go for the “normal” photo guy who matches his bio.

Look for regular photos of a guy on a dating app, such as a candid shot of them and their pet or one selfie.

Bypass the guy whose images are filled with gym selfies or modeling headshots.

Read the bio as well and make sure their interests align with yours.

If you enjoy sleeping in on Sundays, you want to swipe left on the guy who goes hiking early in the morning or to church services at the crack of dawn.

7 Don’t shy away from cultural differences.

Keep an open mind, and don’t limit your dates to guys whose backgrounds are identical to yours.

I come from a loud Irish/Italian family who loves their beer and pasta. My fiance is cajun and eats foods foreign to me, like crawfish and jambalaya.

I have learned so much from being with him, and now he celebrates St. Patricks Day as a genuine Irish person would, and you can catch me celebrating Mardi Gras every year and enjoying my King Cake.

8 Make a list of all the things you’re looking for in a relationship.

Know the answer to the question, “What are you looking for in a relationship?” If you are looking for something casual, don’t go out on a date with someone looking for a long-term serious relationship.

That will just lead to needless heartache in the end. Be upfront and honest about what you want; write it in your bio.

9 Make sure your core values are clear upfront.

Be honest about your deal-breakers, and don’t compromise on important things to you. Don’t sacrifice what is important to you for anyone.

10 Save the interesting conversation points for real-life dates.

Don’t give away all the information on yourself as soon as you start talking. Save the fun stuff for when you meet in person.

Exchange some messages, ensure you feel safe, then set a date so the two of you can get to talking in person.

11 Take a break.

Sometimes it can be exhausting, constantly swiping and going out on dates. It is okay to allow yourself time to reset.

Some dates may be straight-up awkward and weird and can leave you with a bad taste in your mouth.

Take time to relax and focus on yourself before jumping back into the dating game.

12 Talk to your friends about all your dating app’s highs and lows.

Share everything with your closest friends or family members. Talking to friends about your dates is a healthy way to vent.

It can get frustrating going on unsuccessful dates instead of holding that in share it with your friends over a bottle of wine.